Posted by By J E Solomon
So much has been written and said about sex and love, and no doubt, a lot more will continue to be said about the subject. However, the indisputable fact is that men and women view sex and love differently.
Women generally tend to be more emotional than men and equate sex with love. On the contrary, most men see sex as a means for excitement and may even be dispassionate about an affair. If they show any sign of deep affection at first sight it could more likely be a fleeting experience that is only physical and not rooted in the intellect.
Barbara Cartland, a renowned British romance novelist, had this to say about men: “The first moves of a man into a love affair are bound to be physical. If his emotion is more than a passing lust, then the attractions of mind and spirit will follow later.”
The usually kind and affectionate words of admiration expressed by a man in a first encounter with a woman may not genuinely be inspired by strong feelings of love. Invariably, such outpour of love sentiments may be motivated by a selfish desire for a bit of excitement.
And if the occasion is a gathering at which alcoholic drinks are available, then the young woman could be more than certain that the professing lover may be acting under the dictates of inflamed passion, aroused of course as a result of alcohol consumption.
As long as young women continue to equate sex with love and ignore the simple truth about men, the more likely they are to fall victim to the amorous overtures of the reckless and adventurous men who prey on women’s emotions.
Love at first sight is possible, though, but its capacity to survive beyond the initial firestorm of passion can only be measured by time. A professing lover who is deluded by a mere passing lust, is usually impatient and too eager for sex.
On their very first date, he is more likely to exhibit aggressive behaviour and irrational tendencies inclined towards sexual pleasures. More especially, he will show an overzealousness to please the unsuspecting young woman.
On the other hand, a man who is moved by a sincere desire to love and care, will less likely display those unhealthy traits of aggression and enthusiasm for sexual pleasures on their very first date, and likely the next.
Failure on the part of young women to discern lust-driven advances from the genuinely inspired affection often leads women into affairs that are not only shortlived, but which in the end leave them greatly disappointed, usually with heartaches that render them emotionally and spiritually distressed.
For the young woman desirous of a lasting relationship, the best way to avoid the traps of male sex adventurers is to allow enough time for close study of the professing lover and not be blinded by excessive demonstration of affection at the onset.